Introverts, the more extreme kind don’t lose energy when they are around you. They don’t romantically dwindle into nothing when they’re not around you either, as unromantic as that may sound and this has nothing to do with how much they do or don’t love you.
Rather, they lose energy when they don’t get to be alone enough. When they don’t get their space.
Space and solitude are energy fields for introverts. They can bathe in the vastness of alone and recharge much like most of nature.
Most flowers need a little sun to grow and blossom. Some die if they get too much, some can only live in vast amounts of sun and this is about as close a metaphor as I can give to the various types of introversion and even extroversion.
Yes, some extroverts, need time alone in the sun too. No where near as much as introverts but they still need it.
So don’t be upset, hurt or feel dejected if your partner or friend doesn’t show you as much attention as you’d like or they seem to frequently want alone time, try and understand their needs and perhaps explain your needs so you can better understand each other.
There are tell tale signs if it is genuine or not. They will usually resort to an activity they perform on their own that doesn’t involve others.
Some read a book, some meditate, some sleep and lay down, some go to the gym alone, some go for long walks, some cook alone, some paint, some play music and the lists go on.
Obviously the tell tale sign may be if their alone time then starts to involve too many others but this is not to discount that sometimes it can involve another person whom they connect with on a much deeper level. This takes nothing away from you, it’s just that they see eye to eye with someone else and their may be no remote attraction at all but their similarities provide a comfort and solace and that may be their recharge.
Don’t always expect answers from them too. They can recluse further inward when they feel you don’t understand them so be careful how you prod at them lest you drive them further away.
I don’t say this to create a tip toe environment around introverts, just merely to try and help people understand who they are dealing with at times, perhaps to give them a little insight and savvy on how to deal with introverts.
-W.E.
You can read more poems, anectdotes, musings and introspection about introverts here: Introversion
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